Maybe men don’t understand that when it comes to penises most women are like Goldilocks—they like one not too small, not too large, but just right. If you poll women and ask them to list the qualities they are looking for in their ideal guy, “a big dick” probably won’t even make the top 5. (Well, unless she’s a size queen). Qualities like kindness, confidence, intelligence and generosity matter so so much more in a lover. In the grand scheme of things, there are so many elements that make sex great, and size is just one piece of the puzzle.