So, how do you reshape your immaculate canvas and keep things fresh? Well, let’s start with the fact masturbation is not one-size-fits-all. Some like to paint-by-numbers, while others enjoy coloring outside the lines. That’s the great thing about being your own self-love artist—you can color the pleasure any way you choose.
No matter if you have all night, are rushing out the door, or are near or across the globe, there are plenty of ways to get down and dirty with the one you love. In fact, you should be involving your partner in this intimate act every chance you get. Studies have shown that couples that engage in mutual masturbation have sex more frequently, so a richer love life.
While a fantasy about being dominant may indicate you are interested in that particular kink, it is just a part of the complex inner world that makes up your dirty, dirty mind. We say what happens in your brain, stays in your brain, so enjoy the moment and then let it go if it doesn’t match what the rest of you wants.
Here’s the thing—as you have blood specifically filling the area that controls arousal, this is what you are going to work. It’s the same as exercising any other muscle. You can obtain the best contractions while your penis is erect. But you’ll notice as you masturbate, the harder it will be to contract the muscle during Kegels. However, the harder you contract the muscle, the longer you will be able to contract the muscle. This is where the magic happens.
It can be hard for someone to get over the socially-imposed guilt of using a sex toy. But when it comes to enjoying a personal relationship with your body as well as you sexual wellness, there is no reason to feel ashamed. Here are some ways to overcome pleasure-shaming.
Intentions, when mixed with self-pleasure, can be a powerful thing. Even before the touching begins, take a minute to think about what you want to achieve—other than the obvious. Perhaps you want to love yourself more, get in touch with your sexuality, appreciate your body, or simply enjoy life. Whichever the case, setting your intent can ultimately pave the way to feeling better about yourself.