Ladies, start your engines. Since sex is a mind-body interplay, so shift your mind into gear. Enjoy the anticipation of a pleasant experience. Call up a mental image of someone you’d enjoy canoodling with.
Pressure is an orgasm killer. If she gets a whiff that you are wondering what is taking her so long, or catches you acting like you are too eager to reach the finish line, it’s done. What she needs is to feel comfortable. Let her know that there is nowhere else you would rather be. You could do this all day—and keep in mind you have to mean it because statistically speaking, most women take up to 45 minutes to reach orgasm.
What works for men, however, does not work the same way for women. We are wired very differently. In fact, men have been wired to orgasm easily and quickly. This way they are able to procreate, spreading their seeds faster and further. Women have been wired, NOT to orgasm, because orgasm creates acidity in the vagina which kills sperm. Maybe women need to be more vocal.