The first thing that I have to stress is not to put yourself under pressure to squirt—that can be a killer. The goal is to have fun pleasing yourself or enjoying sex with a partner. Personally, I think that it is much more important to understand how to find your g-spot, what that feels like, and how you like it stimulated. Just as with oral sex and clitoral stimulation, women’s likes and dislikes run the gamut from soft and slow to a jackhammer fast tongue lashing.
Scientists all over the world are squinting down at their clipboards, punching their calculators, and pushing up their glasses as they sigh with frustration. They stay up nights, tossing in their beds, wondering ‘What is female ejaculate? Is it even real?’’
Ah winter—the time to hide away behind layers of lumpy sweaters and stay in bed until Spring. Those sexy, revealing clothes of summer are now safely tucked away make room for faux fur and flannel, and the temptation is to let our inner-bear take over and hibernate until it is warm enough to go outside again. Not exactly a recipe for romance, it can seem impossible to even imagine taking off your sweat pants, much less having swinging-from-the-rafters sex. But despite the frozen ground and blustering temperatures, turning up the heat is much easier than you imagine.
Here are a few simple tips to keep your sex life hot as the temperature drops.
Winter snowstorms provide endless opportunities to reconnect with your partner. So instead of hiding from the falling snow, think like a really big kid. Bundle up and go on an outdoor adventure. Activities like sledding, building a “dirty” snowman or making naked snow angels sure beats arguing over who has to shovel the driveway. Enjoying each others playful manner, laughing and holding onto each other will bring you closer. When couples engage is some fun-loving activities, they find that it’s not only the love that increases, but the libido too.
Staying indoors during the winter months can mean more opportunity to enjoy exciting and tasty pleasures. Rather than sticking to your usual repertoire of cold-weather recipes, try creating some sexy meals together. Pick a night every week to cook together using aphrodisiacs—ingredients that inspire desire and heighten sex drive—such as figs, almonds, oysters, truffle oil, honey, pomegranate and ginger. You can also ignite the senses by having a blindfold taste test using fruits and sweets. And try the the Kama Sutra Milk Chocolate Body Paint to explore even further with your mouth.
Instead of just hibernating in your bedroom this winter, give it a mini-makeover and create an environment that feels romantic and sensual. Adding just one element, like the Fascinator Faux Fur Throe, is the best way to turn your room into an oasis of seduction. Not only will this throe make your bed look more inviting but it will keep you wrapped in luxurious warmth. When a bedroom looks inviting, you’ll find that you both want to spend more time in there—together.
Skin to Skin Contact
To take the chill out of the air, candles are an ideal substitute for casting that soft and warm glow. Set the mood and light a few LELO Flickering Touch Massage Candles. These multipurpose candles not only emit a sensual aroma but melt into a pool of luxuriously warm massage oil. And make your massage even steamier with the Center Stage Massage Platform.
Look Hot Naked
Although you may think you are warmest bundled up in a cozy robe, wearing nothing more than a pair of Barcelona fur-lined leather cuffs can go a long way toward heating things up. The sexier you feel, the more likely it is that you’ll be in the mood, and we’re willing to bet your partner will appreciate the minor wardrobe change too. Exploring some role-playing scenarios shows your partner that you are willing to fire up your passion.
Steamy Does It
The bath is a great place for a little winter escape with hot water to warm you up. There is plenty of fun, sexy things to do while you’re in the tub. For example, you could play with waterproof toys like the Revel Body Sol Sonic Vibrator. While submerged underwater, the Revel Body QuietCore creates both suction and vibration for a incredible sensation. This underwater feature will have you both spending a lot more time in soaking it up when the temperature drops.
Slip and Slide
Let the cold give you an excuse to experiment with something new. Defrost those goosebumps and keep yourself slippery with warming lube. On contact with the skin, lubricants like System Jo Personal Warming Lubricant create a warming sensation that heightens sensitivity, turning your touch into a much more stimulating experience. You could find that a pleasantly intense orgasm awaits as this type of lube has unique and tingly feeling.
One of the best way to stay warm is to get active, so instead of resorting to the low energy sex positions, heat things up by using positions that work out your muscles. Kneeling positions, like the Super Doggy, are good for keeping both of you active. The Wedge/Ramp Combo combined with a Liberator Lift or two, will allow you both to keep your bodies tightly wound together. Once entry is made, she can then move back and forth, and up and down, while the hips move in tandem.
Unlike bears, we don’t get to hibernate. So if cold, gray winter days and nights make you want to curl up under the duvet in flannel PJ’s with a hot water bottle until March, you’ll want to follow our guide to hot winter nights. By all means curl up under the sheets, but with your other half to keep you warm, and to bring out your true animal instincts.
Sex Educator, Entertainer, Fantasy Fetish Model, Blogger, Adult Product Reviewer and One Woman Show — Madame Amrita does product reviews on a show called “Madame Amrita’s Toy Box”. This, along with her other shows, have a relaxed but enlightening and educational setting, sprinkled with lots of humor. Liberator sent her a few items to review. This is what she had to say about the Fascinator Throe.
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Allow me to profess my love for the Liberator Fascinator. If there’s one bedroom accessory any fun loving sexual being needs in their life, it’s a Liberator Fascinator, hands down. It’s the perfect complement to any sex toy collection. Sex is rarely a clean affair. Female ejaculator? No more will you have to lug your comforter to a laundromat to wash it every week. Get a little messy with body paints? Just throw down your Fascinator and you won’t have to fight over who has to sleep on the sticky spot. Hands get a little slippery during a massage? Craving some period sex? I think you get my point. The Fascinator is incredibly versatile. Hell, I’ve even used mine when my dog was sick so she didn’t vomit on my bedding. It’s easy to throw in the washer and it doesn’t stain. All evidence of your night is washed away in one quick load. I’ve been eyeing the Fascinator ever since I’ve discovered my abilities to squirt. My partner loves making me squirt but he wasn’t the one washing three towels, two throw blankets, and two comforters every time it happened. Something had to change because the mountain of laundry was getting old.
The Fascinator is a waterproof blanket made by Liberator, the company famous for their amazing sexual positioning pillows. One side of the Fascinator is a silky satin while the other side is a soft microfiber. Both sides work well as the waterproof layer is sewn in between the two fabrics. I tend to be a high volume squirter and I have never had this leak onto my bedding in the year I’ve owned it. There can be a huge puddle on the blanket and my comforter beneath it is dry as can be.
The blanket is large enough to cover most of my queen size bed, with dimensions of 72”x 54”. I never have any issue with it being too small for my sexcapdes. All lube, bodily fluids, body paints, massage oils, and the like have stayed within the confines of the blanket as long as we do. It can be thrown over a couch, on the floor, on the grass, or anywhere else your lust takes you. The blanket is discreet and can easily pass for a regular old throw blanket if you leave it on your couch or bed. It’s usually sitting on top of my dog’s kennel next to my bed and no one who has come into my bedroom has said anything about it. It can also travel easily, making it easy to spare your hotel bedding as well without raising any TSA agent’s eyebrows.
Washing the Fascinator is as easy as washing your other bedding. Throw it in the washer and wash it on a cold water delicate cycle and then tumble dry on low heat. I use my standard laundry detergent and I haven’t noticed any damage to it so I’m going to take a guess and say a delicate detergent isn’t necessary. Water-, silicone-, and oil-based products have all come right out of the blanket, leaving it looking as new as the day I bought it.
The Bad Stuff
My one and only complaint about the Fascinator is that it doesn’t absorb liquid. I don’t know about you but my least favorite part of cleaning up is trying to roll off my Fascinator when my ass is in a pool of my own fluids. I also hate having to dump the liquid off of it somehow before I can carry it to my washing machine. It’s not always easy to get it to the bathtub unnoticed. I live in a house with five other people and carrying a large purple satin blanket filled with suspicious liquids does not invite questions I want to answer. I suppose I could lay down a towel to absorb the fluid but that just creates more laundry and defeats the purpose of the blanket. Overall, I’ll deal with the pooling liquid to keep my bedding dry.
I love coming up with alternative uses for the Fascinator. I’m tempted to pick up another one so I have one designated sex blanket, one alternative blanket. So far it’s been used for:
- Infant play space (no more baby puke carpets!)
- Car blanket for car sick pets
- Picnic blanket
- Beach blanket
- Placing under messy eaters
Comment and let me know what your favorite alternative uses for your Fascinator are! Interested in purchasing your own Fascinator? Pick one up at Good Vibrations.