There’s an old adage that ‘If you don’t use it, you lose it.’ I think there is some truth in that because I have noticed that the more I have sex, the hornier I am. Your body and mind get pulled into a million directions and unless sex is presented as an area of focus, it can slip from your mind completely.
We are surrounded by media and movies that tell us women should orgasm in 5 seconds and only through vaginal sex. Needing anything else is perceived as wrong or not sexy. Not only that, there is an assumption on men that they should be able to make a woman orgasm just like that—nothing more than their magic penis needed.
I tend to think that it changes your expectations rather than sensations. A vibrator can feel more intense and work faster than your hand or mouth. After some time, you can grow to expect that level of sensation and that reaction from your body.
The first step to making any woman squirt—is making her comfortable. It all starts in her mind, long before you are actually having sex. Don’t pressure her, don’t place expectations on her. If she feels like you are expecting her to squirt and she cannot, the frustration may ruin your chances.
Remember when working with a mammoth-sized member, it will take more time. Some things will be just impossible, and it could take a lot more planning and equipment than you initially thought. Sometimes, you might start to feel like you are helping someone build Ikea furniture rather than engaging in a spontaneous act of lovemaking.
Sadly most of the cures for impotency out there turn out to be nothing but snake oil. From the aptly named Horny Goat Weed to the scientific-sounding L-arginine, impotency-curing herbs and supplements make big promises they don’t deliver on. Doctors say that while some of these may help with increased blood flow, there is no evidence to show that they can actually help with impotence, and some herbs can even inhibit your erection.
Pressure is an orgasm killer. If she gets a whiff that you are wondering what is taking her so long, or catches you acting like you are too eager to reach the finish line, it’s done. What she needs is to feel comfortable. Let her know that there is nowhere else you would rather be. You could do this all day—and keep in mind you have to mean it because statistically speaking, most women take up to 45 minutes to reach orgasm.