Many of us have a preconceived notion about how we should feel and act as parents. This is especially true for women! The key here is reaffirming your wife’s right to sexual expression and just being with her during the process. What I mean by this is do not pressure her. Discuss how you feel openly, but never force anything she isn’t feeling ready for.
Once you’ve decided that you want to try anal play, you need to figure out how to tell your partner. If they’ve already said that they’re into it, that conversation will probably be pretty easy. But sometimes, those talks work better with a little planning.
If you’d like to reopen the possibility of playing with your wife’s backdoor, you must ensure that the experience is pleasurable for her. Many women feel pressured to have anal sex and oftentimes their first experience was not pleasurable. The best time to bring up the topic is when you aren’t having sex.
Pleasurable anal play is 90% preparation, and that includes getting mentally prepared. That’s even truer if you’ve had uncomfortable or painful experiences in the past because your body will expect the same thing again, which makes the anus tighten up.
Let’s look at this way. Your ass can be like a new playground adventure, and messing around with your butt takes many forms. All that is required from you is giving it a chance. In the end, your sexual orientation is far less important than your awareness and recognition that these hidden treasures are yours for the taking.
No longer a taboo subject, the backside is finally up front. As the media continues encouraging going in through the out door, more curious couples are going to try it. Without the proper preparation, however, the first time could be the last.