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Hello.  I am a squirter and have been for many years.  Most of my previous partners have been thrilled with my ability to squirt easily and it turns us all on.  I am currently with someone who thinks it is unprocessed urine, and, therefore, gross.  Any idea of what it chemically is?  I know there is no smell and it doesn’t stain, so think it has to be different.  Don’t think he is going to last long with me, but it has made me think more of the whole thing.

Scientists all over the world are squinting down at their clipboards, punching their calculators, and pushing up their glasses as they sigh with frustration. They stay up nights, tossing in their beds, wondering ‘What is female ejaculate? Is it even real?’’ 

C’mon guys—why is this still such a hotly debated topic? Surely if we can cure major ailments (like the Black Plague) we can certainly figure out the who/what/when/where and why of female ejaculation. Rest assured, the squirt is very real—and I’m not referring to the soda! 

Although modern science may not yet know exactly yet how female ejaculation happens, women who experience it, and the intense orgasms that usually accompany it, are only too happy to conduct their own experiments and direct their lab partners with cries of, “Oh, yes, don’t stop—right there—THERE!”

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The most common misconception about squirting is that the gushing fluid that spews like the Hoover Dam from between your legs during orgasm is not really ejaculate, it’s—eeww—urine! (Or in your case ‘unprocessed urine.’) This theory is completely inaccurate. While female ejaculate does come from the paraurethral ducts, around the urethra, its chemical composition resembles nothing that of urine. 

The first time a woman squirts, the experience can make her believe that it’s urine due to a large amount of hot fluid being suddenly discharged out of the urethra. Unless your partner enjoys the occasional golden shower, this can be off-putting until you take a closer look at what is happening. The difference between female ejaculation juice and urine is vast. As opposed to the yellow-tinged, funky-smelling urine, female ejaculate looks more like a very diluted version of condensed milk. 

The incredible researchers that dare to explore the female ejaculation frontier have stated that this fluid is produced by the Skene’s glands, located near a woman’s urethra and made of something similar to a man’s prostate gland. A chemical analysis reveals the presence of high level of prostatic acid phosphatase—basically it’s semen without the sperm. This ‘shemen’ is generally milky to clear and is nearly odorless, therefore, nothing gross or disgusting there.

Another reason behind the confusion of female ejaculation is that some women feel the urge to urinate right before they squirt. As the body relaxes just before climax, the entire pelvic floor can feel a surge of delightful sensations. Ultimately, it’s the pressure that creates that urge feeling. But once again, it’s kind of one of those things that science can’t really explain. However, experts in the field of orgasm research (yes, they do exist) believe that the clitoris is just the tip of the iceberg when it comes to female ejaculation.  No—it probably hasn’t sunk any ships lately, but when it’s really examined, the clitoris is a lot bigger inside. It has roots—and those roots can be stimulated internally. Yes, by golly—we’re headed straight for the G-Spot — the mastermind of the squirt.  To better understand how to experience female ejaculation, here’s a helpful Girls Guide to Squirting.

Bogus Bill of Goods

Squirting has gained a lot of popularity in the media recently, even becoming a subject of innumerable porn films like Squirting Redheads, Swallow my Squirt, Squirt Chasers, Take Your Squirt Off—you get my point. To keep the audience engaged and coming back, many adult film stars are faking the act of squirting.

You can see the difference between a fake squirt and the real thing by noticing exactly where the fluid is being emitted from. Watch closely because female ejaculation occurs from the urethra which is near the clitoris. If it looks like a vaginal gusher, especially after a choppy edit, water had simply been inserted into the film star’s vagina with a lube plunger prior to the squirt scene.

When the Levee Breaks

Squirting can result in a suddenly surprising expulsion of anywhere from 2 teaspoons to 2 tablespoons of ejaculatory fluid. However, that all depends on your anatomy. Also, squirting can be a bit of a wet mess. Did someone holding an umbrella just ask, “Where are my galoshes?”

Women who tend to squirt very often, or in great quantities, opt for using something protect their bedding like the Liberator Fascinator Throe. It instantly absorbs the wetness, saves that down comforter, and ensures the dreaded “wet spot” doesn’t spoil the moment. They also have a Mini version of the Fascinator. Since you can take it with you there are no more excuses not to travel to see the parents.

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Another option if you’re worried about ruining that 700-count comforter is to move your sexual activity off the bed—make the floor your playground. The Liberator Lift combined with your favorite Shape, like the Wedge, can position your pelvic floor and heighten your chances of squirting. Plus, there no need to worry about a cleanup—all the Liberator Shapes are stain and water resistant.

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Now, having said all that, there’s certainly nothing to be ashamed of, ladies. I find it unfortunate that female ejaculation would ever inspire such distress, embarrassment, or shame. To be made to feel ‘weird’ about a naturally occurring female function just means that your partner is either not the right fit for you sexually, or he just needs to be educated a bit. So share this knowledge with your partner and hopefully he’ll come around. Many men see a woman squirting as a sign of their passion for them, so shed some light on the science behind it and he will see the art in your meaning.

 

 

 

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