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My husband and I would like to indulge in more anal sex. Other than plenty of lube, what do you recommend relative to Liberator shapes and positions? From a little experimentation so far, doggy-Style seems to work the best for me and my husband enjoys the view. I’m looking for other positions and ways to make it more comfortable and easier with Liberator Shapes. Right now, I only have the Bon Bon and the Wing, from my days of “riding” as a single gal. We’ve tried bending me over either one, but it really has not worked out that well.


askava2-980x668You are my kind of gal—one that is open to the powerful pleasure that anal sex offers and not intimidated about exploring your desire further. Of course, proper positioning can make anal play just as enjoyable as “regular” sex, if not even more. The fact that you’re already experienced with this form of sexual expression gives you an advantage on delving a little deeper. However, for the ladies that have yet to indulge in a little anal sex, it’s not necessarily about the implements but primarily about position, position, position (and lots of lube).


Not Just for the Naughty and Adventurous

Exploring the “forbidden zone” is one of the most underrated forms of erotic pleasure that a woman can experience. For men, getting an all access pass through the backdoor is much different than entering the funhouse through the front door. It’s a sexual activity that requires some finesse and intense foreplay. When a woman is in a heightened state of arousal, her anus can become the epicenter of erogenous zones. Even having it stroked, massaged, or stimulated can provide unspeakable pleasure. In fact, some women are able to have orgasms just from anal stimulation alone without ever being penetrated.


But getting comfortable with anal takes a little maneuvering and requires trust. The ever-popular doggy-style, while great, is not the be-all-end-all to anal positions, and for many it is too intense to enjoy. To find your sweet spot, try experimenting with some of the follow positions.


1408_ramp_0945The Good Doggy

Make from-behind positioning more inviting by bending yourself over on the Liberator Wedge/Ramp Combo. The inclined Ramp increases the height of your hips and ass while the Wedge adds stability and support for your upper body. Using the Wedge (or Wing in your case) can work fine for some people, the Ramp gives more height and comfort in doggy and allows you to relax even more than the Wedge while on your stomach. Entry is made easier if you try to draw his penis inward as he is pushing forward. Your partner can then move his penis around inside of you by thrusting his hips forward and back, while you either remain still or move your hips from side to side. Not only will your elevated naughty bits allow for a deep penetration, it will give him a stunning visual of all the action.



Feel Inclined to Explore

Alter the dynamic of the typical missionary position by adding a Liberator Black Label Ramp. The Divine Incline position can give you the support to simply lie back, relax and spread yourself out. With your bum hanging off the top side of the Ramp, your partner can effortlessly attend to all of your sweet spots while keeping tension away from your backside, giving you more wiggle room without getting stretched too thin. With this point-of-view, he can increase your arousal by massaging and stimulating your anus with his fingers or anal sex toys. If you want to relinquish all control and surrender to your bliss, the Black Label Ramp comes prepared to easily attach your favorite wrist and ankles cuffs.



Show Off Your Assets

There is nothing more exciting than being placed upon a pedestal and being taken from behind—inch by inch. Kind of similar to doggy-style, the Pedestal is a more cooperative position that offers your standing lover the power to adjust his strokes, while you control the depth. Using The Liberator Flip Ramp, in its closed position, gives your body the height and support so that your anal opening is in line with his penis. From that vantage point he is able to spread your cheeks open and view the exciting entry. With a slight rocking motion, back yourself onto him at a pace that feels good or tease him by just allowing the tip. As your level of arousal increases, he can pick up the speed, but the enjoyment is in the slower deliberate strokes. When the action is complete, you start all over again by flipping the Ramp open and engaging in some intense afterplay.


unnamedYou Deserve an Encore

If slowing your roll and taking the scenic route is part of your agenda, then getting out of the bed can be the beginning enticing an experience. Simply stepping out of same-old routine, and adding an erotic massage, can make anal sex a titillating event (especially when it’s being done in a forbidden space in your home). Getting cozy with your lover and taking it real slow is all made possible with The Liberator Center Stage. This portable platform comes with a bolster that gives rise to your hips and ass, and it was designed to make you the center of his attention—to be slowly caressed by your lover. Begin by laying face down on the platform and fit the bolster beneath your hips. Once you feel comfortable, your partner can deliver an erotic massage to the parts of his interest. Nothing feels more relaxing than deep ass massage while a lubed finger gently probes the anal opening. If seeing your partner face-to-face is exciting, simply flip over and allow the bolster raise your bum and begin again.


Delving Deeper

Indulging in pleasure and exploring desire is the best part of sexual expression. The process of experimentation and discovering what turns you on the best part. If you’re still not feeling fancy about anal sex positions and want to learn more, I highly recommend getting a copy of  The Anal Sex Position Guide by Tristan Taormino. This book is like having your own personal tour guide and offers creative methods for beginners to more advanced anal pleasure seekers.


Shout it Out

It is awesome that you have incorporated such a satisfying element into your sex life, and I’m certain that your husband is grateful too! For those that are curious about trying this form of sexual activity, I recommend that you don’t go for broke on the first or second try. As with any type of new sexual practice, working up to the main event is about taking it slow and gradual. It’s all about the foreplay, ladies and gentlemen!


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