Having a sexy conversation is easier said than done. We’re not really referring to “dirty talk” but rather, how intimate chatting is a necessary ingredient to having great sex. Our words have enormous power in altering someone’s mindset toward exploring a deeper physical relationship. And sexy chatting can also serve as verbal foreplay. For some couples, however; striking up a sexy conversation is intimidating.

When it comes to sharing our sexual needs and desires things can sometimes get too personal. Much like discussing money, we are discouraged from talking about sex in direct ways. The funny twist in all of this, though, is we watch plenty of porn together but can’t really bring ourselves to sharing our own sexuality.

Here are five sexy conversation ice breakers that can lead to having better sex.

Own Your Sexuality

sexy conversation The Amber Rose SlutWalk is a prime example of a sexy conversation starter. Thousands of women and men walked the streets while freely embracing everyone’s inner slutitude. The march not only encouraged people to speak out about sexual shame but also provides a positive platform for sexy conversations. Owning your sexuality, whether it’s freaky or conservative, shows your willingness of building romantic connections. What could be sexier than that?

Lead the Way

Sometimes we need to give in order to receive. Dating experts suggest sharing something personal is a great way of inspiring your partner. It’s kind of like an adult version of show-n-tell. Go out on a limb and share something secret about yourself. Being authentic and vulnerable may open the door to sharing new experiences together. If they are still not willing to share, try asking more probing questions.

Fantasy Island

Sexy conversation can also include discussing fantasies. We recommend if you’re first seeing someone to start off with something general. For instance, share what it would be like winning the lottery or living alone on a deserted island. Being general can make things feel less awkward which also helps foster growing intimacy. The conversation can eventually go toward a more sexual direction. If you’re still feeling shy about verbalizing a sexy conversation try using a sex-inspired board games or cards.

Which Position?

sexy conversation Talking about sexual positions is a great way of starting a sexy conversation. Ask your partner their favorite position and what they like about it. Try your best in being as descriptive as possible about your fav’s and don’t leave out any dirty details when it’s your turn. Explain how it makes you feel when seeing your partner laid out a certain way. The more you talk about sex it the easier it becomes for them to envision the position possibilities.

Mood Boosters

Nothing can get someone in the mood faster than a sex toy. No longer a taboo topic, more couples are open to using toys with each other in bed. If you’re already using a sex toy during solo masturbation, share how it makes you feel. Better yet, break out your favorite toy and give them a visual demonstration. Another good trick to breaking the ice is telling them how you would use a toy for pleasuring your partner.

Tell us your sexy conversation starters in the comments section below.

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