There’s no doubt that Fifty Shades set off a frothy frenzy of kink-inspired play. Vanilla couples all over the world are trying out new and adventurous things in the bedroom. Many of those things they would have never attempted if it weren’t for the books or movies. One particular activity sparking interest is sensory deprivation.
Now, don’t let these combined words overwhelm you. This type of sexual play is not new. It’s been around in the BDSM community for quite some time and is relatively safe. In fact, you may have more experience with sensory deprivation than you think. Here’s the thing—if you’ve ever used a silk tie or blindfold during sex, well congratulations, you have successfully dipped your toe in the sensory deprivation pool.
Sensory deprivation [temporarily] restricts one or all of the human senses. It can range from blocking your lover’s vision with a blindfold, to blocking all the senses at once using well-crafted bondage furniture and gear. But this type of play is more than about someone’s inability to see, touch, smell, taste, or hear. It can also involve tactile sensations. You can incorporate tantalizing tools and instruments to heighten sensations, making sex feel ultra-intensified.
We have outlined some ways you can explore the world of sensory deprivation play.
Safe for the Senses
Whether you’re exploring the private offerings of the BDSM world or magnifying every tantalizing or tormenting touch or simply getting the adrenaline pumping for an orgasmic high, sensory deprivation does require some level of planning and preparation. Here are some tips to get you started out safely.
- Start Slowly!
- Discuss boundaries and limits beforehand.
- Decide on a safeword or action before play.
- Communicate and check-in with your partner during play.
- Stop immediately is there is any sign of distress.
- Pay close attention to breathing and body language.
- Never leave your partner unattended when bound or masked.
- Do not play if both or either of you had too much alcohol—it dulls the senses and causes you to make poor decisions.
Order the Appetizer
Sensory deprivation takes the basic tenets of sensation play and cranks sex up to 11. Senses go into overdrive when one or more is restricted. As with anything new, it’s important to start slow before putting the pedal to the metal and heading down the bondage beltway. Using a simple blindfold can be the first step toward opening up a whole new world of sexual excitement. That’s because the restriction of sight has a remarkable effect in heightening the other senses like hearing, smell, touch and taste. It’s all about using the other senses to build the anticipation.
Adding The Secret Sauce
Another underestimated sense we use during sex is touch. We all want and need to feel our lover’s skin. Deprive anyone the ability of touching and things can get hyper-sexy. An excellent way to prevent touching is immobilizing your partner using a set of comfortable restraints. The Liberator Bed Buckler is designed to create a custom fit with cushy, adjustable cuffs that keep your lover securely in place. What’s more sexy than laying there naked and vulnerable and unable to do anything? Perhaps knowing your trusted partner is watching you squirm with every single touch.
Pushing the Limits
The incredible thing about BDSM is that anything goes. Well—almost. Not only does this type of play open up lines of communication (because you are always required to check in with your partner) it also helps expand the imagination. It’s a known fact that some people with limited sensory input can sometimes experience pleasurable altered states of consciousness. Often referred to as subspace, the submissive’s mind wanders into a fantastical world filled all types of wild and sensual experiences.
If you are already familiar with the innocent tricks such as blindfolding and restraining, you may want to experiment with deprivation of several senses together like sight and hearing, touch and sight or all of them at once. The more restricted each of the senses, the more vulnerable the submissive feels, and more control a Dominant has over the scenario.
Implements of Joy
Our bodies have a great ability to receive pleasure. Every one of our senses elicits a physical reaction based on the external stimuli. That’s why we always want more of what feels good, even if it’s mixed with a little bit of pain.
Using implements and sex toys during sensory deprivation play can amp up the orgasms. Almost any sex toy can tantalize your partner during sensory deprivation. For instance, if your submissive is a male, a vibrating cock ring can provide a constant source of stimulation and drive him wild. For women, you can use a remote control vibe. It works well for denying and or delaying her orgasm.
When needing a more ‘humiliating’ effect, a flogger or paddle blends pain with pleasure. A slight stroke against the skin followed with a quick slap can escalate arousal and leaves the skin feeling warm and tingling. Don’t forget to use your words! Detailing your actions verbally leaves your partner wanting more.
Add a bit more intensity to your sensory deprivation play by adding a new sensation. Implements such as nipple clamps are fantastic for keeping the mind focused on particular body parts. The secret, however, is applying the clamps while your partner is at their highest level of arousal. The pressure creates tension during the scene and can provide incredible sensations while they are orgasming. You can easily create more anticipation to the scenario with the Jimmy Jane Hello Touch X. This electro-stim sex toy offers your partner a [safe and gentle] shocking surprise while they are physically restrained and blindfolded.
There’s a famous scene in 9 1/2 Weeks where Mickey Rourke and Kim Bassinger plop themselves down in front of the fridge. You don’t need expensive gear or furniture to make sensory deprivation play exciting. Don’t be afraid to get creative using an array of foods or condiments. Using them, especially when your partner’s sight is limited, can enhance their sense of taste and smell. Plus, the textures can enliven the sense of touch.
You can use other household items too such as feather dusters, makeup brushes, silverware, prickly plants or anything else you think will add to the enjoyment. Things such as spoons and forks are incredible for temperature play and can easily be warmed or cooled. Mixing textures can heighten their sense even more.
For some people, sensory deprivation can be overwhelming, especially if two or more of the senses are restricted. Here’s a little trick—you will want to end the scene gradually. To do this, taper things off by applying less and less stimulation. Gently pulling back allows the play session end naturally.
Aftercare is an essential component to sensory deprivation play. A great deal of TLC is required after a scene because it’s possible for submissives to slip into subspace. Plus, it helps you bond emotionally and physically with your partner. Your partner may feel light headed, weak, emotional, cold or unable to talk afterward. You can wrap them in the Fur Fascinator Throw while they sip on a cup of calming tea. Reassuring them with cuddles and love helps your partner gradually adjust and come back down to Earth. By giving them attention afterward, you’ll both experience a dramatic end to some sensation play.2