Although beautiful, the land of plenty between a woman’s legs is complex territory. In fact, women have so many erogenous hot spots down under, it can feel overwhelming for anyone to figure out the exact combination to her satisfaction and pleasure. You might think that a few strokes and sweet kisses might be enough to make her putty in your hands, but more than likely, you’re missing the most important element to her achieving climax—the clitoris.
Understanding the art of clitoral pleasure is the key to getting a lady to come back for more. So, get comfortable and pay attention—here’s everything you need to know when it comes to pleasuring her mound of joy.
Just in case you need it, here are some basic facts. The clitoris is a small bud-like formation that is located slightly above the opening of her vagina, near the top of her inner labia. The size and shape of the clitoris vary from woman to woman, as does the way it reacts to stimulation. Packed with about 8,000 nerve endings, the clitoris is more sensitive than the penis and often becomes engorged during the arousal.
Here’s a tidbit of information—a vast majority of women do require clitoral stimulation during penetration in order to achieve orgasm.
Give Her Your Digits
If you’re feeling inspired and would like to use your hands, here are a few techniques to help you on your way. Now it goes without saying that clean hands and tidy fingernails are essential before you plan your exhibition. Since the clitoris is extremely sensitive, most women find direct pressure and contact uncomfortable. Slow your roll before diving right in, and start the journey by stroking her inner thigh while gently moving inward to caress either side of her clit. Don’t forget to include her labia before making the clit your final destination. Your fingers are nimble, so use them to your advantage and aim just below or above her clit while creating small circular motions.
To take things up a notch, try using the Jimmy Jane Hello Touch X. This strap-on for your digits offers two types of pleasure –one for vibrating stimulation, and the other– a tingly electrical sensation.
We’ve all heard the story about how a vibrator became be a girl’s BFF. But what if we said that you both can have cake and eat it too. No need to be intimidated, because this battery-powered plaything can definitely help you be in more places at once. To dial up her clitoral stimulation, especially during intercourse, try using a vibrating cock ring like the LELO Pino. The trick, however, is to line your pubic bone to hit her at just the right spot and angle and take things really slow. Once you get into the groove, she’ll being thrusting upward for more.
Boys? Ever try masturbating without some type of slippery agent? Well the same goes for the clitoris. When it comes to ensuring an optimal experience and sensation for your partner, a dabble of personal lubricant can be your best ally. There are a lot of creams and potions that offer tingling and numbing effects, but it’s best not to get too caught up in the newest thing. Instead, ask her what she prefers.
Mix Business with Pleasure
To treat your lady to an earth shattering orgasm, your mouth (and tongue) are going to be your best aids. Believe us when we say that all women appreciate a man that decided to get up close and persona. The built-in lubrication and warmth are obviously favorable when it comes to oral sex, as is your ability to mix up the sensations with your lips and tongue teamwork.
If you’re looking to move past the basic flick and swirl and show that you really understand the clitoris, try creating a bit of suction by taking her clitoris into your mouth with some gentle sucking or pulling away when she’s close to orgasm, and gently blowing on it to heighten her sensation and prolong the encounter.
Helpful Hint — Increase your oral sex stamina with the help of the Liberator Wedge. It not only delivers her closer to your mouth but prevents getting that crick in your neck.
The Real Deal
Let’s not forget our favorite sex toy ever created—your penis! Yes, your cock can get into the game and help out during foreplay. During penetration, your member might not get too much face time with her clitoris, so it’s worth taking a bit of time to introduce them— they’re sure to be fast friends.
Before sex, why not try having your woman lay back on the Liberator Wedge/Ramp Combo with her legs clamped together tightly (on her stomach works too) and slide your member between her legs right where they meet with her pelvis. Moving back and forth in this position lets your penis rub between her labia and, more importantly, directly over her clitoris. Not only does this trick feel great for both of you, it’s sure to heighten your collective arousal and result in possible perfectly timed orgasms for everyone.
Understanding the clitoris is the sign of a man that is invested in his partner and her pleasure, both of which are noble qualities. Even though it seems like a bit of a mystery, there’s nothing to be afraid of, and many things to gain, namely a happy and satisfied woman. And remember, a satisfied woman is going to be more interested in making sure that you’re satisfied too, and you can’t ask for more than that.0