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askava2-980x668My boyfriend has a very well-endowed penis (both length and girth). After we have sex, I feel an aching between my legs which takes several days to feel better. Whenever I take a step or even sit down…the ache. I think it comes from my vagina stretching to accommodate his girth. Do you have any ideas on what we can do to prevent the soreness?

Congratulations! Looks like you caught yourself a one-eyed monster—an elusive and highly sought after prize so large that it defies medical science. For many, the pursuit of this fabled creature is an all-consuming passion. Sadly, after starring in Deep Impact, Anaconda and Free Willy, this giant wonder went into seclusion. Every so often, rumors emerge of its existence but all photographic evidence too muddled for confirmation. But trust me, the too-big penis is very real. I’m talking about an existence so hair-raising that it can make a girl do the wince & grab at the thought of a chance encounter.

Colossal Cock

Such a stupendous schmeckel sounds great in theory but not necessarily in practice. Just because a vagina can stretch to the size of the Panama Birth Canal or indulge in a well-planned fisting session does not mean it can take a repeated pounding from the third leg. The thought of “you’re putting that in this?” can create decidedly unsexy thoughts.

You might be focusing on the size of the thing and not the sensation, and when you are rigid like that, good luck with that orgasm. With that level of tension, your muscles do their job—they contract with an unfortunate vice-grip like strength. That’s when it becomes uncomfortable and a major distraction. All that anxiety and anticipation that comes from trying to handle a big one can suck all the pleasure out of your ‘big night.’

But no worries—for every Goliath, there is a David. Here are a few tips and tricks for smooth sailing.

Managing a Colossal CockExpand your Horizons

Remember when working with a mammoth-sized member, it will take more time. Some things will be just impossible, and it could take a lot more planning and equipment than you initially thought. Sometimes, you might start to feel like you are helping someone build Ikea furniture rather than engaging in a spontaneous act of lovemaking.

So the most helpful tool for, uh, handling a big tool, is to try to drop your expectations about what you have to do to make your sex look “good”—that sex shouldn’t have to include toys, or a massive amount of foreplay every time, or whatever it is you need.

Be the Master of Breath

A tense body can instantly zap arousal, pleasure, and intimacy. The key to savoring every moment…I mean inch…is through conscious breathing. But you don’t have to stress out about it because this exercise does not require a gym membership—only your willingness to relax.

With optimal breathing, your tension dissolves into spontaneity and passion. To begin, take one deep breath through your nose rather than the mouth. See, doesn’t that feel better already. Now try to imagine that you are sending that breath to different parts of your body. You can imagine it flowing to your head, your fingers, your vagina, your toes or to any part of your body. Use your favorite color, and imagine it flooding to the parts of your body as you slowly inhale and exhale.

A Lot of Lube Will Do You

Lube! The not-so-secret-sauce to keep your love canal singing no matter what his size. A quality lube can make or break a special night together, so, you don’t want to be without it when you’re getting ready to take on ‘Krull: The Warrior King.’ Don’t be stingy—apply it everywhere. All over his penis and make sure your vaginal opening is very lubed up. Doing this will lessen that rawness you can sometimes experience after sex.

Grow your Toy Collection

Vibrators and dildos are essential tools for relaxing the vaginal muscles to be putty in his hands. If you haven’t tried it before, toys such as the Tantus Sam, Vixen Maverick, or the Large Vincent by Liberator Erotic GlassWorks will help to stretch out and warm up your precious muscles. Plus, toys give you an element of control that can relax you. Once you have gotten off once, you are more likely to be ready, willing, and able to try for number two with his massive member.

Easy Rides for Cowgirls

Managing a Colossal CockHow are you with being on top? Excellent, because for the sake of your vaginal comfort, you’ll be doing a lot of it. In dealing with the wonderful willie, I’ve found that by starting out on top makes it easier to get the guy inserted. You have more control over the depth and speed while enjoying the scenery. Plus, there’s less of the bad friction that can make it feel like you skinned your cooch during those first few moments of penetration. It can also help to loosen you up enough to eventually shift into other positions.

If you are uncomfortable up top, bringing in a Liberator Shape like the Wedge or Hipster can add a lot of leverage and comfort. The Wedge elevates his hips, giving you a more controlled penetration. Essentially you’ll be the pilot that guides his jumbo jet into the hanger while controlling every aspect of the entry. Also, you can rest your calves over the top of it and use it for leverage. That way you get more up and down movement with less work. You may also want to consider adding a Shape like the Whirl, which moves with you so you don’t have to strain your muscles as much to get rocking and rolling.

Controlling your lover’s penetrative dive is all about finding a position that is comfortable for you. If you don’t want to feel like you’re being explored by a heat-seeking missile, try using the missionary position. The trick with this position is not to spread open, but instead, keep your thighs and knees together.  When your legs are closed, the vagina around the penis creates less depth but more intense stimulation for both partners. Another great way of managing a Whopping Wally is to use the same closed leg technique for a more modified doggy style position. Using the Wedge or Whirl, just under the hips, allows him to enter from an angle directed towards the clitoris.

Managing a Colossal Cock

Enjoy More than Just the Meat

If you still feel that you cannot manage for long, try making penis-in-vagina penetration the dessert, or even the appetizer, rather than the main course. By this I mean, you can start or end with some mutual masturbation, manual or oral stimulation, or a game of Parcheesi—whatever turns you on. This is also a good way to introduce toys or other elements of play that will spice up your vagina. That way you can still make sure everyone is satisfied and still have a stupendous climax at the end.

Open Your Mouth

Whether your sexual fantasy takes you to that scene in Fast Times at Ridgemont High or something out of Naked High School Honey’s, it probably does not involve saying stuff like “Ouch, take that thing out” or “We need to stop for a break” or “Please don’t wail on my vagina like it is a Guitar Hero controller.” But as much as it interferes with a lot of our fantasies, talking about what you are feeling and needing in that moment is probably the most effective tool in the colossal cock arsenal.

Using your mouth—to communicate!—is key to adjusting angles, changing positions, or adding more lube. All of these things will make having sex with a huge dong, a huge bonus.

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