We are celebrating Anal April with Q&A from renowned sexpert and b-Vibe creator, Alicia Sinclair. Take a look at everything you need to know about having pleasurable anal sex.
This might or might not be a silly question. But how can I get my wife to do anal more often? It’s not something I want all the time, but it would be nice and something fun and different every once in a while. It’s not that she hasn’t done it before… Maybe once per year.
As I’m sure you know, the thought of anal play can be pretty scary to people. There is a lot of confusing misinformation, taboo, and tall tales which causes a lot of fear. I find the most important part of making the anal play experience pleasurable is education, patience, and lubrication. If you want anal to be a regular part of your play then the experience needs to feel good for both you and your wife.I highly recommend that rather than aiming to start with penetrative anal sex (meaning your penis in her butt), start with a sexy anal massage. Here are a few moves to get you started.
I highly recommend starting with a sexy anal massage rather than aiming for penetrative anal sex (meaning your penis in her butt). Here are a few moves that can get you started.
Going from zero to the penis is a no-no. The anal sphincter may be strong, but it is also very delicate. It’s best when starting small. You can begin by using fingers and then working your way towards something larger such as a butt plug. A small vibrating butt plug, like our Novice Plug, is a great option because it’s almost the size of a finger and is great a transition from fingers to toys.
The amazing thing about vibration is it not only offers a pleasurable sensation, it also relaxes muscles—and that’s exactly what you want to be doing. The added benefit of the Novice Plug is its remote control. This will let your wife have control over her experience. Or—if she so chooses—can hand you the remote. The added fun can be a sensual way of adding anal play to your bedroom fun.
When you’ve given anal massages, played with your butt plug, and found that you are both really enjoying the experience—then move to anal penetration with your penis.
Remember, go slow and use lots of lubricant. Unlike the vagina, the anus is not self-lubricating. So, lube will be your best friend during anal play. Read this article to learn more about lubricant for anal play.
I hope you are now feeling both empowered and inspired at making anal play a more regular option in your play!