Anal sex is getting a lot of mainstream media attention lately. No longer a taboo subject, the backside is finally up front. In fact, the recent issue of Women’s Health Magazine features the Liberator Caresse Wedge because of how great it is for anal sex. As the media continues to encourage going in through the out door, more curious couples are going to try it. Without the proper preparation, however, the first time could be the last.
Prelude to Penetration
Word to the wise: anal sex is best when you’re highly aroused. Do not treat the anus like a red-headed step-child. It’s a very sensitive spot and deserves a great deal of attention and stimulation to get warmed up. Make your lover’s ass a significant part of the foreplay ritual. If not, its cat-like reflexes will instantly shut down tighter than the vault at Fort Knox and you’re never getting in. Stimulate the area during foreplay and take your time before diving right in.
Preparing your body for anal is not always about penetration. A gentle anal massage is one of the best ways of getting your lover revved up. Not only does it feel tantalizing, it can help generate more blood flow to the area, which in turn results in more stimulated nerve endings. To get your partner’s rosebud to unfold like a flower, gently work your way around the opening using a soft, swirling motion with some Southern Butter Backdoor Balm. This sweet smelling balm is great for softening the delicate skin while relaxing your partner. They will let you know whether or not you’re on the right track just from their response.
Your first thought about analingus—a.k.a. tossing the salad—might be ‘EW!’ But once have personally experienced the joys, you will be more likely to want to share with your partner. The sphincter has so many nerve endings in the anus and surrounding tissues shoot that pleasure shoots through your whole body. Obviously, cleanliness is next to sexiness in this case, and some couples have even been known to have an enema beforehand just to alleviate any worry. If you don’t want to get that close, you can place a condom or latex glove between you two. From there, use your tongue, lips, and breath to gently stimulate your lover’s delicate starfish. If you are worried about the taste, try adding Sensuva Lic-O-Licous Oral Delite Cream to coat your mouth in yummy.
Tools of the Trade
Enjoyable anal foreplay does not have to involve digital or penile penetration. There are tons of anal-specific sex toys that provide some amazing sensations. For anal sex beginners, we recommend starting off with something basic. The tapered, 3-piece set of Anal Silicone Explorers works really well for couples just learning about the new pleasure spot.
Butt plugs are all the rage these days. Depending on your preference, there are glass plugs, silicone plugs, metal plugs, decorative plugs and the list goes on and on. The stainless steel Njoy Pure Plug feels phenomenal going in and coming out. Plus, they can be worn in and out of the bedroom and offer the wearer a sensational full feeling.
Graduating from anal probes or plugs and playing with something more substantial is fairly easy these days. The B-Vibe Novice Butt Plug is the newest toy that is specially designed for anal newbies. Not too big or too small, the B-Vibe is shaped for anybody. The kicker is this baby has got some powerful vibration and is equipped with a wireless remote. After using the B-vibe a few times, you may just want even more penetration.
Lube is Your Friend
Lubrication makes everything run smoother. Although the anus produces small amounts of mucus, it really isn’t enough for any type of penetration. The point is to create a slippery entry way which makes penetration feel smooth and effortless. Since you can never use too much lube, you’ll want something that feels silky and not sticky. Our recommendation is the Pjur Backdoor Glide. Its high concentration of ingredients like jojoba oil extract makes anal sex feel like a “let’s do it again” adventure. If you’re still not feeling entirely relaxed, we recommend using a squirt or two of Sensuva’s Happy Hiney Anal Cream. The specially formulated cream helps relax the anal opening without making it feel numb. NO spit or saliva—please!
Perfect Anal Sex Positioning
When it comes to your anal adventure, there is no right or wrong position. What it really all boils down to is different positions offer different sensations. Almost like a slow dance between lovers, anal play calls for deliberate and focused movements. One misstep and the show is over. The key to experiencing super hot anal is making sure your bodies are aligned while feeling comfortable and relaxed. The Wedge/Ramp Combo can give couples just the right angles, leverage and access. Don’t be afraid to play with the pieces and find a configuration that delivers the most impact without any strain.
Teaching Mr./Ms. Tingle
The realm of anal sex is wide and vast—unlike your asshole. Proceed with caution and you’ll have an experience you can build on with time. It’s a journey, not a race. What works one time may not work another. But listen to your body and your partner and you are opening up a world of pleasure.
If you want some further reading, check out the Anal Sex Basics book. Short and concise, this how-to manual is great for beginners and for those who need a refresher course.23