Written by Krystal March
Over all, I had never really given ‘squirting’ much thought. I had actually only made cursory attempts after reading about ‘female ejaculation’ when I was in my twenties. During these explorations, I was able to find my g-spot, feel the need to pee—and after much stroking, moaning, and inability to relax fully—failure. I was having more success and fun with other sexual experimentation at the time, and this quest held no special place and fell to the wayside.
Much later in my life, I was dating a guy that was very knowledgeable, and under his tutelage I would learn all about g-spots and squirting. He was very proud of his perfect record of introducing his partners to squirting and I was excited to try again. Sadly, I have to admit, though he tried every trick up his sleeve and we had fun each time that we tried, I never achieved my squirting goal under his talented hands. My determination to achieve my goal outlasted our relationship and so under no pressure, and on my own, I excelled.
The first thing that I have to stress is not to put yourself under pressure to squirt—that can be a killer. The goal is to have fun pleasing yourself or enjoying sex with a partner. Personally, I think that it is much more important to understand how to find your g-spot, what that feels like, and how you like it stimulated. Just as with oral sex and clitoral stimulation, women’s likes and dislikes run the gamut from soft and slow to a jackhammer fast tongue lashing. Some women enjoy a hard, fast pounding on the g-spot while others prefer gentle pressure and some others find it more a painful feeling then a pleasurable one. The other thing to remember is that this may not be your ‘squirt button,’ many women squirt from clitoral stimulation and others from anal penetration (a fine way to hit the g-spot if the angle in doggy style is correct). Take it one step at a time, and take your time.
Before you begin, make sure that you have gone to the bathroom and emptied your bladder. Another thing that has always worked for me is to make sure that I am hydrated, drinking plenty of water. You’ll also want to protect your bed, couch, rug with plenty of towels, like with a Fascinator Throe. The best position for you should be comfortable and relaxed, either on your back or doggy style—for me it has always been on my back. The g-spot or urethral sponge is located behind your pubic bone, in the front of your vaginal wall, about a finger’s length and up. If you have a partner who is helping, have them use one or two fingers inserted while you lie on your back and then have them slightly hook them in a ‘come here’ motion. You should be able to feel that the tissue there is bumpy, not smooth. Also the g-spot has erectile tissue, just like the clitoris or penis, and it will swell when stroked, rubbed, pressed. For me it was much easier to find after I had given myself a clitoral orgasm to get the juices flowing.
If you are on your own then it might be easier with a toy of some kind, vibrating or not—your choice. There are countless fantastic toys on the market today. My favorites have to be from Lelo—The Mona 2 is great for internal and external, and the Gigi 2 is one of the best g-spot vibes on the market.) From Njoy, the Pure Wand that has never failed to make me squirt. The cool, hard metal makes applying the right amount of pressure easy. Of course you can choose any object that pleases you, I have a no name acrylic that I use in the shower and the first toy that caused me to squirt was just a soft flexible dildo. Most women however have the most luck with a toy with a more bulbous head, that way it hits the g-spot on the way in and on the way out.
Keep going, stimulating the g-spot and instead of bearing down, you should push out with your vaginal muscles. Depending on the shape of your vagina and where your urethral opening is located—higher, lower, further inside, etc.—you may need to withdraw the toy, penis, or fingers to un-block the opening to squirt. On my first time, when I felt like I was ready to explode, I kept going, pushing harder against my g-spot and pulling the dildo completely out of my vagina before pushing it back in. The final time that I pulled the toy out at the end, I squirted almost three feet across the room. I continued to rock the dildo against my g-spot and was able to squirt a second and third time. I have never been one to come multiple times from clitoral stimulation, but I almost always do with my g-spot.
If you’ve succeeded, lay back and bask in your glory. Take notes, remember what worked and what didn’t. Now that you know what it feels like for you, experiment and see what else might work—it’s all about having fun while you cum. If you did not squirt, no loss, just try again, different toy or position. It’s well worth it!4