I know what some of you are thinking. Cowgirl! UGH, TOO MUCH WORK! It’s hard on the thighs, and unless you do squats every day, you’re going to feel the burn within a few minutes. It’s a shame, really, because this is one position where you can be in complete control.
Good cowgirl is dependent on two things: confidence and positioning. Some women may feel in the spotlight while sitting on top as if all their jiggly parts are going to jiggle in excess—but let me tell you from experience, he is enjoying the view. He loves the bouncing of your breasts and thrusting of your hips. It’s damn sexy, honey, so own it! But if you can’t go there yet, try pulling a sheet around your hips or blindfolding him.
The other part of the confidence equation is movement. I have found that most guys are just happy that you’re there, much less analyzing your every move. What he will pick up on, is whether or not you are enjoying yourself. With girl-on-top positions, you command the show. Slow, fast, swirling or bouncing, it’s all up to you. So be greedy—he will eat it up!
The secret to accomplishing this position, from start to finish, is slow and simple back and forth motions. You can place your weight on your hands. It keeps the pressure off your thighs. From there begin to experiment—add a swirl to your hips like you are dancing a salsa, or thrust your hips forward and back like you are twerking (an especially nice move to get some friction against your clit.)
Still haven’t found your sweet spot? It’s time to bring out the big guns with an up and down movement. This is where most women start, and it is a stamina killer. I like to save it for the grand finale. He’s probably loving seeing you using his dick to get off, but if you have any concerns, ask him what feels best and work in that area to find something that feels amazing for both of you.
Now just because you’re the one on top, does not mean he gets to lie there all passive. The great thing about this positions is he can participate too. Lean down so your face is close to his. He should be able to roll his hips forward for some deep thrusting. Unless you guys are super coordinated, it would be best to only have one of you moving at a time—so nothing goes askew, penises are broken, tears are shed. Doing this is also a great way to break up your movements and give your legs a break for a minute.
While you’re at it, put his hands to good use. Have him support you by holding onto either side of your hips, or move them a little further north to have him play with your breasts. Pro-tip: one of the best things about cowgirl is that it keeps your clit in the clear for toys. Choose something small like the Je Joue Mimi Soft or Womanizer W500.
Now, let’s not waste any more time. On to some of our favorite positions for riding his pine!
The Wedge is fantastic for cowgirl. Not only does it help raise up his hips for deeper penetration, it also makes a great leverage point for you. With this angle, it is easier to rise up and get more height without as much work. Plus, your weight will be forward, giving you some good momentum.
By placing the Wedge under his knees, it works like a fulcrum point, allowing his to lift up his hips by pressing down on his knees. This gives extra oomph to his movements without a lot of effort. That makes reverse cowgirl extra exciting. You can place your weight forward on the Wedge while he lifts his hips up. With the Ramp behind him, his head is placed for maximum eye candy.
Spice up your cowgirl with the Black Label Hipster. With him strapped in, you are in complete control. Take your time and tease him. You’ll both be so comfortable you could do this all day. Place your knees on the Shape for extra padding, and he can find the perfect tilt to his hips along the curves of the Hipster. Enjoy exploring what feels best—it’s not like he’s going anywhere!
The Esse Chaise is the ultimate for girl-on-top positions. It has a narrow body and low height, so it is comfortable to straddle. It is easy to place your feet on the floor to get plenty of leverage. This takes some of the pressure off your thigh muscles because you can use your feet and toes to propel you upwards. Plus, he can help by placing his feet on the floor. Once you try it, you’ll wonder how you ever did without cowgirl or an Esse Chaise.
Like the idea of placing your feet on the ground, but don’t have the room for and Esse Chaise? You can make a similar configuration with your Wedge/Ramp Combo and some Lifts. It’s like adult Legos—build your playscape where ever and whenever you want!
One more girl-on-top position that we wanted to mention, only this one you are riding his face. Oral cowgirl positions can be easy if you can rest you bum on his chest. If he is comfortably laid out on the Black Label Esse Chaise, it puts his neck in a prime forward position for hours of pleasure. You will be sitting pretty in this position while grinding your way toward satisfaction.
Now get out there and ride em’, cowgirl!3