It is very important to realize you should NEVER use a regular everyday candle for this kind of play. Generic candles burn at a temperature that is too high to touch skin without burning it (scented ones are worse, generally). The goal is to pleasure the senses and add a new sensation and dimension to your intimacy, not wind up in the ER.

Type of candles you should use are massage candles, which are soy based. Booty Parlor, Jimmyjane, and LELO all have some great massage candles on the market. These are great because the soy base makes them double as moisturizers. So not only do you get to add the seductive sensation play with heat, but you also get to lavish your lover in a luxurious moisturizing body massage.

There are vendors who do create candles used for more decorative waxing, which can vary from looking like sprinkles on a cupcake, too being incredibly detailed artistic creations, like the top image. Candles created for the purpose of body waxing are made of wax, but are specially made to burn at a much lower temperature to avoid burning the skin. A very popular vendor of these candles can be found here.

Playing with heat can be a great way to add a level of “oomph” your love life might be missing. Whether you choose to luxuriate your lover with a heated massage, or if you wish to cover your lover in beautiful colors and create a piece of body art is up to you. But this Valentine’s Day why not light a candle for your lover’s body instead of the dinner table and give them a night they’ll never forget.

I’ve been modeling since I was 17 thanks to an ex boyfriend’s photographer mother. It wasn’t something I was comfortable with until I was around 19 or 20, however. I started modeling to the degree I do now about the time I turned 19. I really wanted to push myself into a different situation, especially since the year that I first started college was a big time for evolving for me. Modeling allowed me to do that for myself, and though I don’t do it full time it’s been a creative outlet ever since.

In addition to modeling, I do makeup art. So if I’m at a shoot, I’m doing makeup or modeling or both. I won’t even go into my obsession with wardrobe and shoes and how I love to dress up and dress fellow models…;) I like to cook, and I care very much about nutrition and love to read about it. I’m a microbiology major, so I’m studying a lot and using big words on occasion. I love learning about diseases, and one day I’d like to be the first epidemiologist (might want to look that word up) with brightly colored hair. ;p

My interests in modeling specifically lie with anything that is not mainstream, which is difficult because everything is becoming mainstream. However, I love Victorian era costuming, corsets of all shapes and materials (I own 7 or 8 currently), anything focused on shoes, pin up, rockabilly, parts modeling, fine art, fetish and BDSM, rope, dark images, gore, horror, almost anything that makes someone uncomfortably aroused while looking at it…

Other than the above, I’m just glad someone first asked me if I’d like to model. I don’t know how I’d get the fix I do without it. I’m also very thankful for every opportunity I’ve had and will have.

If you want to find me elsewhere and ask questions, I can be found at the following:

On ModelMayhem (3 actually):
http://www.modelmayhem.com/2523004
http://www.modelmayhem.com/1013258
http://www.modelmayhem.com/1496311

Fetlife (2 of them):
http://fetlife.com/users/807294
http://fetlife.com/users/106346

Flickr (work in progress): http://www.flickr.com/people/minuitstorm/

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Men love their penises! They like to touch them, talk about them, refer to them, use them to point at things and sometimes smack things with them (you can fill in whatever you like there). However most men I know, when the subject of penis size comes up, think that what they are packing is just not quite “up to par.” Men want to literally and figuratively have the largest cock in the room. The man with the biggest junk wins apparently. But most women I know don’t want a monster penis hiding in their man’s trousers. They just want a man that knows how to use what he’s been given, whatever the measurement may be. I think it’s time men had a reassuring article of their own that lets them know that no matter the size, as long as it works, there is no need to panic!

There is a little known mental disorder called Koro that has been around for thousands of years. It is more prevalent in Southeast Asia, but still found in other countries as well. Another name for this disorder is “Penis Panic.” Koro is thought to be derived from the Malaysian saying, “Head of the turtle.” Men with this disorder are convinced that their penises are shrinking in size and retracting back inside of their bodies. Just like the head of a turtle tucking itself back inside the shell. Poor little fella! This is of course on the very extreme end of penis fretting, but many men worry too much about the size of their penis.

Penises, like breasts, come in all different shapes, sizes and lengths. Some point up, some point down. Some hang low and some hang high. There are the ones that hang to the left and the ones that hang to the right. There are the growers and the showers and I can’t even begin to count the multitude of skin tones. No matter what your penis type is, there are really only a couple of measuring facts that you need to know that guarantee everything is going to work out fine!

The average size erect penis is between 5.1 and 5.9 inches in length (thats 12.9 to 15 cm for all you metric measurers out there). While I know that doesn’t sound huge, to a typical vagina, it’s more than enough to get it on like King Kong!

The average female vaginal canal measures 2.5 to 3 inches in length when unaroused. When aroused, the vagina expands to a typical 4 inches in length. Thats right, 4 inches. That gives even the guy on the smallest end of average an extra 1.1 inch overage! So unless her fantasy is for you to try to reach a kidney, you are absolutely packing everything you need to satisfy her. Now, technique is a whole different article. We’ll save that for another time.

So my point here is this guys, you more than likely have everything in the lower regions you need to get the job done, and get it done with pleasure!

I leave you with these words of encouragement. Burn them to memory and the next time you feel like you are questioning whether you have enough junk in your trunks, just repeat after me.

You are long enough, you are wide enough, and gosh darn, her vagina will like you!!

YoLU (or Year of Living Uncomfortably) is a little phenomenon based in the Atlanta fetish community that focuses on challenging yourself. YoLU is all about facing your fears head-on, and forcing yourself out of your comfort zone. There is a group on Fetlife about YoLU. There are posts talking about the evolution of YoLU as well as people sharing their YoLU goals, experiences, and accomplishments.

Some of these YoLU goals are about trying new things within the kink-world, like trying a new kind of play, or putting yourself out there by going to new munches, meeting new people, or attending a kink-oriented convention, like Frolicon. Then again some of these goals are about everyday concerns, like losing weight, learning to think more positively about one’s self, embracing your flaws, or getting a new hobby.

These goals are all admirable, but also frightening. Putting yourself out in the line of fire takes courage and commitment, and of course love and support from friends. The YoLU group allows others to see your goals and encourage you down the path to being the best version of yourself. We are all constantly growing and learning, and pushing yourself to face things outside of your comfort zone can help you learn a lot about yourself. Choosing to live life uncomfortably gives you the opportunity to learn your boundaries and push them, making your self stronger in the process. I have chosen to have a YoLU, some of my goals are particular to the kink lifestyle, others are about making me a better individual.

Is there anything you’ve been thinking of trying, but have psyched yourself about? Challenge yourself to a YoLU, and get out there and do it! Take a chance on that dance class, do that photo shoot, put yourself out there in the fetish community, or on trying that new style of play you saw at last weekend’s play party. Do your research, keep yourself informed and aware, and make yourself a little uncomfortable. Good luck, and happy YoLU!