Do Women Lie about Sex?

Article disclaimer: When I write about a certain topic I am not intending to speak or represent all people or all ways of thinking. These are just my observations the way that I see them.

Lie: something intended or serving to convey a false impression.

Recently I was a guest on a popular radio show in Chattanooga Tennessee as an Atlanta sex and relationships writer. The topic of the show was love, relationships and sex from a woman’s perspective. During the show the host asked me one simple question: Do women lie about sex? My answer was, yes they do, but not for the reasons you may think.

The reason women lie about how much sex they are having or want to have is a complicated balance of wanting to have sex but not wanting to seem like they are over willing to do the same thing men freely admit to doing. Let me explain.

A lot of women, whether they realize it or not, still let the old double standard of sexuality for men and women rule their reactions. If a guy is very sexually active or has multiple partners he is considered a stud: a man who is virile and sexually active. However, if a woman is getting the same amount of action with as many partners she is considered a slut: a dirty untidy woman.

I polled a few of my single guy friends about this issue. While they all said what they want is complete honesty from women, when I turned the tables and asked them to give me honest reactions to potential honest answers, what I got were a few of the following responses.

Q: If a woman lets you know that she, just like you, is seeing and sleeping with a few other guys, would that be O.K with you?

A: Probably not, I mean I don’t want to catch something from her if she is sleeping with a group of other guys.

Q: What would your reaction be if, out of the blue, your girl asked you to try something really different and kinky in the bedroom?

A: My honest first thought would be, “How does she know how to do this?”

Q: If a woman you wanted to have sex with told you that all she wanted from you was sex and nothing more, that she wasn’t interested in a relationship of any kind, how would you feel?

A: I would start to wonder what was wrong with her, most women want a relationship of some kind.

Q: How would you react if a woman you just had sex with left very shortly after and you didn’t hear from her again within a few days.

A: It would be very obvious I didn’t “rock her world” so I would just move on and not call her.

Women have been conditioned to know that certain answers will bring certain labels and some answers will stop a groove move session in it’s tracks with the wrong response. So, women have an internal response mechanism that allows them a certain amount of honesty, but not too much!

I always hear my guy friends talk about the games that women play. They seem to miss the fact that they are complaining about a game where they made up part of the rules!

If a girl wants to play on the other side of those rules, she is likely to find herself thigh highs deep in explaining and back peddling. No one wants to do that. So, here are a few responses, for you guys, that will help you know when a girl is being honest, but with a hint of sly fibbery.

“I never do this”

“I wasn’t expecting that to happen”

“I must have had way too much to drink”

“I know it’s late, but do you want to get together and talk?”

There are many others, but I won’t reveal all the secrets!