Many of us have a preconceived notion about how we should feel and act as parents. This is especially true for women! The key here is reaffirming your wife’s right to sexual expression and just being with her during the process. What I mean by this is do not pressure her. Discuss how you feel openly, but never force anything she isn’t feeling ready for.
Once you’ve decided that you want to try anal play, you need to figure out how to tell your partner. If they’ve already said that they’re into it, that conversation will probably be pretty easy. But sometimes, those talks work better with a little planning.
The butt is probably the most intimate part of our anatomy. A gateway to hidden pleasures and treasures where only the most trusted can gain access. So let’s gaze in awe, and dream of exploring the luscious depths of the greatest butts of all time.
If you’d like to reopen the possibility of playing with your wife’s backdoor, you must ensure that the experience is pleasurable for her. Many women feel pressured to have anal sex and oftentimes their first experience was not pleasurable. The best time to bring up the topic is when you aren’t having sex.
It’s totally normal feeling nervous about something new. Geez, we all feel some anxiety when experiencing something for the first time- whether or not it’s sexual. I think it’s wonderful you are asking for advice. Education is one of the best ways in empowering partners to explore anal play.
Going from zero to the penis is a no-no. The anal sphincter may be strong, but it is also very delicate. It’s best when starting small. You can begin by using fingers and then working your way towards something larger such as a butt plug. A small vibrating anal toy, like the b-Vibe Novice Plug, is a great option because it’s almost the size of a finger and is great a transition from fingers to toys.
Pleasurable anal play is 90% preparation, and that includes getting mentally prepared. That’s even truer if you’ve had uncomfortable or painful experiences in the past because your body will expect the same thing again, which makes the anus tighten up.